How to engage in self-development. Where to start self-development: a step-by-step plan for women and girls Proper self-development
Something is always happening in the world - it is born, grows, develops, goes away... Life does not stand still! Especially in our hyper-civilized times. All living things are filled with energy. Energy is movement. No movement - no energy, which means death. Movement is a sign of vitality, the basis for growth and self-development. Development (opening, unfolding), in the context of linear time, can only go upward. Accordingly, everything that goes up grows, develops, transforms its quality into higher aspects. Everything that moves down undergoes entropy, degrades, and gradually loses the ability to live. But, as they say, everyone has a chance as long as they can breathe.
When a person is born, he gets the bonus of the opportunity to live, grow, develop, change himself and space to one degree or another. Taking into account karmic moments, still not every Living being comes into the world precisely to grow. At the same time, it is quite capable of advancing in tamas (ignorance). And this may be the life lesson of such a person, as well as lessons for those around him (remember about alcoholic fathers, women of non-severe behavior, etc.). Such individuals, by their example in life, give others the opportunity to purify, enlighten the mind, humility, and accept the logic of the universal divine, and not the flat human logic, which perceives the flow of life in a dual way.
This article is about sattvic, blissful self-development, which carries unlimited potential for all subsequent lives of a person and his Kin.
As they say, don't worry about karma, rather practice dharma regularly. And dual perception is not the most the best option to start self-development. But nevertheless, the most common, if not “sewn into everyone’s default “Homo Sapiens” basic package.”
Only a few - the enlightened ones - are able to make an “upgrade” and achieve in self-development that very cherished point (state) called “samadhi”. Total presence everywhere, in everything, realizing oneself as a fractal of the universe and knowing this experience “here and now”, and forever.
We will consider the dual option of personal self-development. So...
Self-development - where to start: plan
And is a universal plan for everyone even possible? Where to start personal development?
It turns out it is possible. Despite the fact that personality is individual and unique. Moreover, the self-development plan can be scheduled by hours, days, weeks, months. It turns out to be a kind of spiritual time management.
Let's get started.
Spiritual self-development: where to start? Key parameters of self-development
Self-knowledge
Self-development is impossible without self-knowledge, this is a fact. Otherwise, how to move and where if you don’t know why and what the initial possibilities are? Self-knowledge in some cases is a little late before self-development, for example, a person under certain conditions showed his abilities, which he did not even suspect (swimmed a river, being afraid to swim; wrote a complex piece of music without knowledge of musical literacy; prepared a delicious dish, standing at the stove for the first time, etc. . P.).
IN in this case we can say that human potential is limitless, all conventions and barriers are most often created by the mind and destructive patterns of the past. It’s good when the process of self-knowledge occurs regularly, consciously (yes, it is not always conscious, despite the absurdity of the phrase).
Unconscious self-knowledge- when a person demonstrates his abilities “by chance”, as a result of which he “gets to know” himself (like: “Oh, but it turns out I can do this too”), and on the basis of this he builds prospects for further self-development.
Conscious self-knowledge- the basis for conscious self-development. And this version of life is perhaps more interesting and productive than the previous one. Yoga is one such form of comprehending the experience of reality. For a conscious practitioner, life is comfortably systematized and structured, while allowing the individual to be himself in the most diverse version of self-realization.
Any system of holistic development (yoga, qigong, tai chi, martial arts etc.) gives a person the opportunity to become a better version of himself, first of all. In order for self-development to become conscious, literally imprinted in DNA, you will have to work hard. Daily work on yourself is the basis, the beginning of self-development.
Main " problem areas» mind-mind-body, with which it is necessary to build interaction regularly:
- discipline (regime, necessary austerities),
- cleansing (mind-consciousness-body),
- studying relevant information (studying is not yet learning),
- training from mentors (bearers of knowledge and experience),
- practice to develop all of the above,
- interaction with the world (the ability to fit into the general environment in an environmentally friendly and promising manner) world system life, to constructively model your reality, being as independent and autonomous as possible, is one of the skills of a self-developing personality).
Discipline
Discipline of the mind (formation of the mind - Wisdom), body, actions (activities). Compliance with the regime: sleep/wakefulness, nutrition, interaction with society. Discipline does not mean a soldier's routine of life, it involves ordering personal reality for the benefit of oneself and the universe. It's never easy at first. And who said that it would be easy on Earth?
There are many systems (in the context of a person’s spiritual, energetic and physical health) by which one can discipline oneself: yoga, qigong, wu-hsing, Ayurveda, etc. The choice is up to the individual.
We can say that discipline is the beginning of self-development.
Zeal. Repetition, gradualism, calmness. Only someone who can diligently practice the same action (movement) is able to achieve mastery. It doesn’t matter what - in planting beets, in driving an airbus, in the daily performance of pavan-muktasana (even in a train compartment).
Cleansing
Mind (in the understanding of intelligence, logic), consciousness (mind), body, emotions.
You can recall one well-known allegory that it is pointless to pour fresh water into a dirty pan in order to prepare a tasty dish.
Until the vessel is clean, there is no point in filling it with anything. The result will still be the same: the old (thinking, feeling-knowledge, habit, etc.) will not allow the truly new (new, more perfect quality) to manifest itself.
Only cleansing from:
- unnecessary thoughts that interfere with the manifestation of pure consciousness,
- habits that lead a person in a circle, inhibiting access to a new quality of life (spiritual, physical, material),
- an abundance of emotions (both positive and negative. Everything is good in moderation. Let us remember the Tao system and balance),
- general personal disorder (chaos of thoughts, states, actions, etc.),
- social circle (stubbornly pulling you up and down with your good intentions).
In fact, the list is far from complete.
Purification is the process and goal of all (every) life, and at any stage there are “weeds” that you should learn to interact with for the benefit of yourself and the world. Moving on, thanks for the experience.
Study, training and practice
The topic of a separate article, therefore, it is an overview: it is better to build training and study the necessary information under the guidance of an experienced mentor, so that at the beginning of the path of self-development you have solid support and the opportunity to receive expert feedback. Practice! We remember: theory without practice is incomprehensible and useless, like the taste of honey without tasting.
Who needs self-development, except the individual himself?
To the world. God. Absolutely. Rod. To all things, including a crow mercilessly pecking at a tin can.
Who/what can help in personal self-development
All. Every event contains potential for self-development. Who knows, maybe right now is the beginning of self-development.
What you have to do yourself
All. It's like wanting to convey to another person personal experience. In the end, there will still be a new experience and new way life. There is only one thing in which you can shift responsibility onto the shoulders of other people - in your own conception. And even then, according to the version that a child chooses his parents 5 years before birth, the previous sentence loses its meaning.
Mistakes on the path of self-development
Staying in illusions, admiring your ego, mistakenly taken for spiritual growth or enlightenment. Chaoticness in the acquisition of knowledge, irregularity in practice, fears, focusing on those who “failed” to come / arrive / crawl to the Truth.
Criteria for self-development: how to understand that it is self-development that is happening, and not its illusion
Life will improve qualitatively (in the case of monastic hermitage, this parameter can be interpreted as “life will always be wonderful”), the worldview will transform and expand. Options for self-manifestation will be increasingly global and unique (for example, a woman swimming at great depths, under ice, without clothes and insurance. The result of successful personal practice with consciousness, psyche, body).
Your social circle will change. It may become smaller, but it will be a circle of like-minded people, kindred spirits or, conversely, adherents of different ideological currents of a mutually developing nature.
The illusion of self-development - pride, the desire to surpass (not oneself, but others), encyclopedic knowledge, thinking without real practice, without long-term experience, without kindness, wisdom, without a state of inner fulfillment and happiness...
How to pacify the ego in the process of self-development
Asceticism works well. Different for women and men. For women, for example, serving the same people, being faithful, raising children, taking care of one’s beauty, maintaining a home, and accepting one’s husband is considered the highest asceticism.
For men, asceticism will be early rise, regular physical/spiritual practice, modest food, responsibility for one’s family, self-discipline, etc.
Especially self-centered (unconscious, ignorant) God ( Higher power, Higher Mind, Absolute, Cosmos) gives illness - on the physical plane or on the spiritual. As practice shows, including medical practice, there are many egoists in the world.
The ego is well pacified by service. The topic is broad, so it will be brief: service to a spouse, parents, God, Teacher, the world, etc.
Is it necessary to visit places of power for self-development?
The place of Power is the battery, Eternal flame, revealing in a person what he has “accumulated through backbreaking labor” over the entire period of life practice. The Place of Power, if without romance and shamanic magic with tambourines, is a certain geopoint ( crystal cell Earth, the place of intersection of meridians), saturated with powerful energy potential, in which a prepared (!) person receives an additional “charge” of strength, energy, insights, etc. An unprepared body, consciousness and psyche may simply not cope with the “pumping” and will receive (I just want to write “water pump”, but the format of the article has no place for humor!)... There are different options for the development of events. Truth does not need decoration. Therefore, you can develop yourself everywhere: at your grandmother’s in the village, in a noisy office, in a small apartment, in an endless line at a hypermarket on a weekend...
Places for self-development
All of the above, including places of power, as well as yoga studios, qigong, visiting retreats, thematic events/ retreats, festivals, etc.
How to choose a Teacher on the Path
When the student is ready, appears. All that can be explained here is that what kind of student is what kind of teacher. Karma, personal qualities, etc. - everything has the nature of complementary attraction: if you have an angry disposition, you can receive a Teacher as a “gift”, with whom you will take the corresponding lessons.
The same goes for positive qualities: the true virtue of a student will manifest itself in the life of such a Teacher.
Who is he, Teacher
In fact, absolutely any person, living being, situation, time - everything is a Teacher. This is from a philosophical perspective.
In the context of the Teacher as a master who conveys specific experience and knowledge, a Teacher can be a person who has managed to achieve balance in life, silence in the mind, wisdom in the mind, kindness in the heart. In addition to practical results expressed in numbers, facts, reviews.
Self-development- This independent process self-improvement, determined by the set goal, which is realized mainly by acquiring new and developing existing skills, as well as by overcoming bad habits.
Thus, self-development (self-improvement) is the path that leads you to a happy and healthy life.
Self-improvement helps you develop your personality in such a way that even the people around you become happier.
If you do decide to change your “I” for the better, you should be prepared for various grueling physical and emotional stress.
In order to walk your path and begin to live the life of your dreams, the life that you are proud of and enjoy, you need to become the best version of yourself, the person you are meant to be.
The starting point of self-development is the choice made.
Then you need to perform the steps discussed below that will contribute to self-improvement.
As you move forward, your priorities and ways personal development may change.
For example, at first you decide to train in one type of activity, but as you deepen and gain professionalism, it is quite possible that you will realize that in fact you have a passion for something else.
When you embark on the path of self-development, you will notice that people who are dissatisfied with themselves will confront you, dissuade you from your plans, or try to confuse you. Don't let them do this.
1. Decide what you want to achieve in life
What do you want from life? Perhaps this is one of the most important questions that every person should ask themselves.
All people want something, but only a few have conscious goals and make meaningful plans.
However, the reality is that if you don't decide for yourself what you want to achieve in life, someone else will do it for you.
There are always people next to you who will try to impose their own vision on this issue.
But only you can decide which direction to move in and whether to implement the advice of others.
These people will include everyone around you, but the greatest influence on you will be, firstly, your parents, whose advice is most often based on their own experience.
Secondly, your friends, many of whom do not even know what they want, and very often can only lead you astray from your intended path.
In general, of course you need to listen to the words of your surroundings. But do not forget that only you are the person who has the right to lead your life, and therefore no one should be allowed to reshape your destiny according to someone else’s scenario. It's your choice and your life.
If you really do not want to go to university for the specialty proposed by your parents, having well-founded reasons and a sincere reluctance to engage in this type of activity, then you should not do this.
If you know what you are inclined towards and can imagine at least general outline how you manage to implement them, then be sure to move in a direction close to your heart.
If you can imagine it, you can do it.
Walt Disney
It is very important to understand that “We become what we think about,” and this expression is so true that it is even difficult to imagine.
This is the fundamental secret of the universe, which can be described in other words: “To receive something, you must first give.”
The basis in this case is the focus of your attention. If you focus on negative thoughts, you will get negative results. By focusing on positive thinking, you will achieve positive results, at least sooner or later.
So be very responsible and find out for yourself what you want to achieve in life, what do you want to do, what do you want to become?
2. Identify your problems and shortcomings that can be eliminated
Identify those negative or missing points in your life that you would like to improve.
For example, you can conclude that you go to bed late every day, smoke, drink alcohol, earn little money, are overweight, ill, etc.
Face the truth, make a list of your problems and shortcomings. This list can include anything, but try to only really consider actual problems, not just the ones other people have mentioned.
To begin self-development, you should understand what, in fact, you should develop in yourself.
For each item on your list, jot down a short plan and a reason for fixing it.
As a way, you can mark the need to sign up for a gym or swimming pool, doing physical activity at home or street jogging.
Your mind can rationalize anything. Having explained to him the true state of affairs and the validity of the tasks that have arisen, he will become your faithful servant on the path of personal development.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- Is there anything I would like to change?
I don't have my own apartment, I don't like my job, my relationship with my girlfriend is on edge, I'm stressed or anxious, etc. - Is there anything I would like to have?
I don’t have any loved ones, I haven’t traveled for a long time, there is no advancement in my career, I earn little, I feel unhappy, etc. - Is there anything I should give up?
I drink too much alcohol, eat unhealthy food, treat my parents poorly, spend too much time in in social networks, I'm too hot-tempered, etc. - Am I doing what I like?
Start planning your life, learn to prioritize, go in for sports, come up with a hobby, read books, find better job etc. - Do I want to change?
Change your bad mood low self-esteem, dependence on others, one’s own laziness, anxiety, existing negativity, one’s fears, etc. - Am I not fulfilled?
I'm not successful enough, I'm not smart enough, I'm overweight, I'm a loser, etc.
The answers to these questions will allow you to formulate your goals that need to be realized.
3. Make a self-development plan
At this stage, you begin to detail ways to move towards your goal.
Creating a self-development plan may seem like a daunting task, but there is nothing overly complicated about it.
The most important thing is behind you, because you have already realized your life guidelines. Once you know what you want, allow your mind to identify ways in which you can achieve your goals.
If you clearly imagine a ship of self-development leaving the harbor with a crew on board and choosing the course of its voyage, 99 percent of the time out of 100 it will be able to reach its destination.
Along the way, your conqueror of the ocean of life's problems may encounter unforeseen obstacles, such as depletion of fuel reserves and the need to replenish them.
He may have to anchor for a while and provide the crew members with proper rest.
Despite all this, the ship's captain will not forget about the laid route and eventually the destination will be reached.
To create an action plan, research information about possible ways to achieve your goal. And the first thing you can do is find the necessary information using search engines on the Internet.
Whether you want to start a business in your niche, create an at-home exercise plan, or develop a sense of style, do some research in your area of interest.
Include in your plan the actions that you must take every day, every week or every month to achieve your goal.
4. Start moving towards your goal
You have already defined your goal, and now you know how to realize it, so start taking actions every day that will bring you closer to it.
Along your journey of self-development, you will find that you want to change other qualities in yourself, and this is wonderful.
For example, as you improve your ability to dress stylishly, you may notice that your hairstyle also requires changes.
The process of self-development will most likely be a difficult undertaking, but almost any innovation in your life initially leads to some confusion and confrontation with the usual foundations of your life.
Still, remember that as long as you are focused on your dream, nothing else matters.
5. Stay moving
Typically, development is associated with a certain level of pain. But this is the only way you can feel your progress and improve your own skills.
5. Lifelong improvement
Having chosen the path of self-development, you will no longer be the same and will not be able to stop improving yourself.
For you, this means your ability to change for the better so much that at the very beginning you will not even imagine that this is possible, because the result you receive will become the starting point for the implementation of new plans.
6. New features
Self-development will open up new opportunities for you. All you have to do is be willing to recognize and implement them.
7. Improving quality of life
Self-development in general contributes to the growth of your standard of living.
You don't just become a better person by acquiring new skills. As a result of your internal changes, everything around you begins to change.
You gain better health and well-being, start doing what you love, your relationships with others improve, and life itself ceases to seem like alternating scenes of work and boring life, but takes on the image of a game.
Having gone through a series of obstacles and trials, you become happier, and problems that once seemed to you at a new level of thinking can only bring a smile to your face.
Self-development plan
Have you ever taken a trip on your vacation without planning ahead? Probably not likely.
It's very difficult to enjoy a trip if you constantly have to think about where to stay, what to eat, and where to go next.
It's much easier to travel when you have an idea of your destination, as well as a plan for what to do next.
The same is true for the journey through your life. Very few people take the time to plan, so it’s not surprising that they end up asking themselves, “How did I get here?”
This is why it is so important to prepare a plan in advance. However, most people find it easier to ignore the current state of affairs than to try to make the necessary changes.
There are other benefits to creating a self-development plan. If you ever feel lost in life, you can simply look at your plan and remind yourself where you are going.
A personal self-development plan is your guide in life, with the help of which you gain control over your destiny and can.
A self-development plan will help you expand your knowledge, develop new skills, or improve important areas of your life.
So what elements does a self-development plan include?
1. Define your goals
The first step is to identify the goals that really matter to you.
They may be related to career, personal life, health, or the desire to acquire a new skill (for example, learn a foreign language).
What is important to you? What new skills do you want to gain? What achievements will make you happy? Do you have unfulfilled dreams? Do you want to get a better job?
Write down 5 to 10 goals that matter to you.
2. Prioritize
Of all the goals you wrote down, which one do you consider the most important? She will become the main one strategic task, which you should focus your attention on.
Perhaps you want to develop your career, get in better physical shape, or learn new skills.
Think about skills that, in addition to their immediate benefits, have a positive impact on other areas of life.
6. Identify new skills
If you want to have something you've never had, start doing something you've never done.
Richard David Bach
In other words, to achieve something you've never achieved before, you need to develop skills you've never had before.
You should start working on these skills as soon as possible. To do this, determine what skills and knowledge will help you achieve your goal and make a list of them.
7. Take action
If you want to achieve a big goal, you have a lot of work to do.
Write down at least 3 to 5 of the most important tasks that you need to complete within a certain time frame.
8. Get support
Who can help you achieve your goals at an accelerated pace?
If you want to lose weight, you can contact a fitness trainer. If you want to organize a business, find access to people who have experience in the niche you are interested in, who will not be your competitors (for example, entrepreneurs from another region). If you want to become a master of words, sign up for public speaking courses.
Make a list of people who can help you achieve your goals.
9. Progress
The best motivator for continuous movement forward is your own progress. Even if it is insignificant, you will receive a portion of pleasure and a boost of energy.
It is important to evaluate your achievements and also draw conclusions about what can be improved. If something goes wrong, then you need to change the strategy you are using.
Write down all conclusions based on the results of the evaluation of the results obtained, which will determine the need to make appropriate adjustments.
Your task is to make all available resources work for you.
Skills useful forself-improvement
1. Learning foreign languages
IN modern world in the context of mass globalization knowledge foreign language can become an invaluable personal asset.
While you shouldn't expect to be fluent in another language in a couple of months, even knowing the basics can be a very useful skill in certain situations.
2. Meditation
19. Learn to deal with “difficult” people
There are times when it is not possible to avoid unpleasant people, for example, due to duty.
Learn to deal with these “difficult” objects because this people management skill will be a very useful tool for you throughout your life.
20. Learn to let go of the past
Is there some kind of resentment or unpleasant memory from the past that just doesn’t want to leave you? If so, it's time to let him go.
The stranglehold your brain has on this negative yet intense emotion prevents you from moving forward and becoming a better version of yourself.
Forgive yourself, forget about past events and continue on your way.
21. Rest
Have you been working too much lately? In this case, you should take a break, you are not a robot with a perpetual motion machine.
Pay attention free time yourself every week. Relax, take a break, as a result of which you will receive a boost of energy to move on.
Everyone has ups and downs in life, and often we blame others and fate for our failures, but we may not see our own shortcomings. In order to change something in the world around you, you need to start, first of all, with yourself.
One day you will ask yourself the question: “where to start working on yourself?” Self-improvement is a delicate matter, you need to approach it very competently, so that at one moment you don’t feel the desire to give up everything.
The Wheel of Life - as a strong motivation on the path of self-improvement
If you don't know where to start self-development How to choose the right path for yourself, first you need to understand at what point you are. The Wheel of Life is a system that helps you analyze your level of success.
To do this, you need to draw a circle and divide it into 8 sectors:
- career and business. Do you enjoy your work?
- finances. Are you satisfied with your salary? Do you have enough funds for financial independence?
- friends and environment. Does your environment help you develop? What do you get from communicating with friends?
- family and love. Is there harmony in your relationships with loved ones?
- health and sports. How good is your health? Would you like to make your body attractive and get rid of excess weight?
- entertainment and relaxation. Are you organizing your vacation correctly in order to not only recharge your batteries, but also get something useful for yourself?
- education and personal growth. What knowledge have you acquired to develop and improve yourself?
- brightness of life. Are you satisfied with your life? Does it have enough bright, memorable moments?
Each sector is yours life value, which is necessary in order to feel the happiest. This way, you will put your goals in order and have a better understanding of what you need to strive for. Also, do not forget to write what exactly in each sector you lack for complete happiness.
Each sector must be assessed using a 10-point system. You must be as honest with yourself as possible. There is no need to look for excuses for your saggy belly or low salary. Just finally admit to yourself that everything is bad in these areas and you need to do something about it.
After this, connect the points on the scale with a line. If the resulting figure in the center resembles a circle, then you can only be congratulated. You are in complete harmony with yourself and with the world around you.
If you get a crooked figure, you will be able to see which sector you need to work on in order to achieve harmony and happiness. In addition, by putting one sector in order, you can positively influence other parts.
After analyzing each sector, you must set global goals, which you need to break down into several small ones and confidently strive for them. In addition, the goal should be achievable, so be realistic and don’t try to become slim like Angelina Jolie and find yourself a prince in the person of Brad Pitt.
Get yourself a diary and write down in it what you have achieved, every small victory. For example, you gave up unhealthy but tasty food. Praise yourself for this.
A positive outlook on the future is half the success
Personal development cannot be achieved without a positive outlook towards the future. If you always think that you will achieve nothing, that there are no results, thoughts will swarm about giving up everything, you will never achieve anything.
You should greet every day with a smile, rejoice in even the smallest victories, see the positive in everything, notice changes in yourself.
Of course, thoughts alone are not enough for a person’s self-development. Actions are important. At first, 30 minutes a day is enough to read a book and learn something. You can even just not sit on social networks or watch TV in the evening, and this will already be a victory and the first steps on the way self-improvement.
Literature for self-improvement
Books for self-development are another step towards improving your personality. There are many primary sources, such as the Bible or books on the teachings of Tao, but they will be incomprehensible to many.
Today there are a lot books for self-development. We present you a list of some of them:
- Les Hewitt, Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen "A Whole Life". It will teach you how to set realistic goals that are easy to achieve. You will be able to correctly prioritize;
- Dan Waldschmidt "Be the best version of yourself." This book can radically change your life. It tells how simple people become outstanding;
- M. J. Ryan “This year I...” This book will be useful to everyone, as it helps to change habits, keep promises to yourself, and change your life for the better;
- Brian Tracy "Get out of your comfort zone." Recognized worldwide as the #1 book on self-development. You will be able to step out of your comfort zone to achieve maximum goals;
- Kelly McGonigal "Willpower" How to develop and strengthen? The author believes that willpower is like a muscle that needs to be pumped up and strengthened.
All books have one main meaning— self-development never ends. You can work all your life to develop your personality, to make your life bright and unforgettable. Each of us strives to be better, but this quality must be used wisely.
A few rules for self-development
Each person lives in his own comfort zone, and we are often afraid of something new and unknown, which is why it is so difficult, and sometimes scary, to change our lives. The process of self-development needs to be turned into a habit so that you never stray from this path.
Where should you start self-development? Plan Simple steps will help you gradually develop this habit:
- life depends directly on our desires and actions. There is nothing impossible about it. Never tell yourself that something can't be done, just think about what it takes to make it achievable;
— break the path to the main goal into several small ones that are easy to achieve. Once this becomes a habit, you can set more goals for yourself;
- in the evening, think about everything that happened to you during the day. Record your successes and failures. If you did something wrong or it didn't work out, think about what would have changed if you had done it differently.
Do not forget that self-improvement is a difficult path, but very interesting. If you once decide to change your life, always stick to this thought and believe that the result will meet all expectations. Always look at life, successes and defeats with a positive outlook, and then you will definitely succeed.
This doesn't mean you aren't great now, but constant development is necessary if you want to stay motivated and motivated. peace of mind. We will talk about 16 rules that are the foundation for self-improvement. Take a small step every day towards a better version of yourself.
Enrich your mind
1. Eat a frog
Not in the literal sense, of course, although this is not excluded. Our regular readers probably already remember this expression. “Eating a frog” means doing something unpleasant. So, do this at the beginning of the day. It's one thing whether it's a difficult work task or an unpleasant phone call. Get rid of this matter, and it will not hang over you like a heavy burden for the rest of the day.
2. Start already developing or acquiring skills
There will be no better time than now, believe me. You don't have to wait for a special day to start tightening up or learning to play the guitar. If you want to learn a language, register on the service for self-study, buy an audio course or hire a tutor. Then it will definitely be difficult to retreat. Buy a guitar! Yes, these expenses are justified: this is the path to your dream.
3. Make a pact with friends
There is no financial opportunity to enroll in courses or buy musical instrument? Ask friends for help. Perhaps some of them have a tool gathering dust without use. In addition, its lucky owner can show you a couple of chords. Or your friend can study a foreign language with you.
By the way, in this case there will be benefits for both parties. After all, when you explain the material to someone, you yourself begin to understand it better. Maybe your friends will find it useful and pleasant to remember their skills.
4. Read, read and read again!
Read books of any genre, read voraciously. Books expand your consciousness, give you experiences that you may not be able to get in real life, they make you think. Don't know what to read? There is a Lifehacker section “” for you. We also periodically write to interesting books that we come across.
Develop your body
1. Do some strength training every day
At the gym, don't spend all your time on the treadmill or elliptical machine. Do strength exercises too. With dumbbells, barbell or body weight. Start with regular squats.
2. Replace unhealthy foods with your favorite fruits and vegetables.
Well, yes, it sounds boring. And again blah blah blah... But this advice does not lose its relevance. With food we can harm or benefit the body. Instead of a bag of chips, eat a fruit or vegetable that you like. Should there be such things?
3. Try group classes
A cheerful instructor and like-minded people are often a great motivator for classes. Invite a friend to practice with you. Perhaps you both need some friendly kicks to get to workouts regularly.
4. Drink water
Still, nothing quenches thirst as perfectly as water. Don't deny yourself a drink when... Carry water with you so as not to buy at exorbitant prices and not be tempted by sweet sodas.
Cultivate True Happiness
1. Praise others
It's very cool to make someone happy, especially someone you care about. Besides, happiness is contagious. Express your gratitude to those around you. People need to know when they are good at something, and it will give you a boost of good humor.
2. Smile
Seriously! Smiling has many benefits. For example, you release endorphins that make you . Even if you force a smile, you will begin to feel better. The next time you feel overwhelmed by negative emotions, control them with a smile.
3. Better yet, laugh
Remember how good you feel after having a good laugh. This is all because of the same endorphins. Make it a goal to laugh at least once a day. How? Read something funny or watch an episode of your favorite comedy series.
4. Surround yourself with people you feel good with
Think about how you feel when interacting with the people who constantly surround you. Are there those among them who drain you, who constantly bring negative emotions? Are there those who sabotage your efforts to improve yourself? You cannot be truly happy if you are surrounded by negative people. Try to spend time with people who encourage your efforts and inspire you. You deserve it.
Grow spiritually
1. Set goals for yourself
We are not talking about career goals now, although they are also important. Start your day by thinking about how to make yourself or someone else happier, what good can you do today? Set goals for spiritual growth.
2. Be grateful for what you already have.
There are always things we want to have, but don't have yet. It's important to work toward your goals, but there's no point in worrying about not achieving them yet. Remember: there is someone who is happy with less than you. Being grateful every day for what you have will help you appreciate your life and your choices. At the end of the day, write down what happened for which you are grateful. Focus on the positive things in your life and you will grow spiritually.
3. Try yoga
Even if you still have difficulty performing asanas, you will still enjoy yoga. Yoga is good for clearing the mind and becoming aware of the body. Even the simplest poses give this effect. Start your day with yoga and it will go well.
4. Remember: everything passes.
In life there are troubles, problems, sad events that completely absorb you. It's hard to swim out and move on. Ask yourself, how will this issue matter to you a year from now? And in 5 years, in 10? Not to mention the end of life.
You only have one life! Make an effort and make it better.
With the growing number of motivational and developmental books and articles, not only the author’s personal experience in a particular issue matters, but also the presence of any practical evidence that these methods work. Let's talk today about in what areas we should develop.
Self-development of personality: experiment
Was held experimental study with a group of young people. They were given a condition - they had to spend 2 days alone. At the same time, any entertainment, including gadgets, was not allowed. They could still study, read ordinary books, write something, and so on - a set of ordinary everyday activities. Plus, each of the participants could stop participating at any time.
Experiment results
The results are, to put it mildly, shocking. About 100 people took part in the experiment, but only 3 reached the finals: 2 girls and 1 guy. Later they told how they occupied themselves. The young man devoted time to physical training, one of the girls plunged into the world of art and creativity - read books and wrote a diary, and the other - took up meditation.
The remaining participants simply could not stand the torture, saying that they decided to end their participation. But, what’s even worse, each of them changed their internal state - they became more nervous, irritable and developed chronic diseases.
Conclusion
Modern youth are simply not fit to live without what they themselves are accustomed to. They cannot completely abstract themselves from the world and plunge into the abyss own consciousness or even choose more traditional means of spending time.
Most young people devote themselves to watching TV, surfing the Internet and social networks, and texting about nothing. At the same time, the concept of “self-development” is either unknown to them or has no meaning.
Self-development - where to start?
You need to start, as always, with an understanding of what exactly you are doing. Development is the process of improving or changing everything that exists. Life, in essence, is a constant development, which, if it does not concern any qualities, necessarily passes through the prism of growing up, social relations and different views of the world.
Based on these judgments, we come to the conclusion that self-development is purposeful actions, the main goal of which is to change or improve certain aspects of life, be it a career, the ability to communicate, or any necessary skill.
Understanding your own actions is the first step towards self-development. Now, specifically about where to start.
- Set goals;
- Plan your day;
- Start reading;
- Lead healthy image life;
- Master communication skills;
- Find a hobby;
- Gain financial independence;
- Learn a foreign language;
- Become more confident in yourself;
- Travel.
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