Hello! My name is Igor Lapin, I am a professional pickup coach. And today we will talk about what kind of relationship can be between a teacher and a student, about how to find out that a teacher is in love with a student, and why students generally fall in love with teachers. And I'll start with a little digression into psychology.

Relationship between teacher and student

Let's start with the love of a student for a teacher. According to many psychologists, an important component of feelings for a teacher is respect. After all, a teacher for many is an indisputable authority who has to make decisions not only for himself, but also for many others. Moreover, the teacher is often such a dominant personality that other students even see him as something of a parent. I am talking now about those female students who lack the warmth and love of their parents, or mothers and fathers simply do not know how or do not want to make difficult decisions related to their children.

Meanwhile, at this age, it is still quite difficult for boys and girls to build serious and trusting relationships with their peers. They are often not interested in such relationships because they lack elements of security, and, no matter how strange it may sound, subordination. But communication with an older person can give them the necessary emotions.

What if the teacher fell in love? How to understand that a teacher is in love with a student, and what are the reasons for this feeling. I'll start answering from the end. I am talking now about the case when the teacher begins to feel warmer feelings for his student than just attention and care.

First of all, it is worth noting that in such situations, psychologists trace the development of the "puero" complex in an adult, and if in Russian - a teenager. You can even say that a person falls into childhood a little. Most likely, such a man missed something good in his youth, or he really does not want to say goodbye to this sometimes. He is still immature internally, does not feel his age. It is understandable, it is a shame to say goodbye to youth.

Hey, I want security and submission, not to mention confidence in the future. And the teacher wants to feel young again. And therefore, there is nothing forbidden (unless, of course, the student is an adult) in such a relationship. True, there is family morality - if a person is married with children, then this is treason. And there is a charter of an educational institution in which such relations may not be welcome. One of my acquaintances, a teacher, was just asked from the Pedagogical Institute for her relationship with her student - and this happens. But that young lady was only three years older than her student.

How to understand that a teacher is in love with a student? In principle, everything here is like with people. His gaze stops on her for a long time, as he distinguishes her from the crowd, for example, often asks or even makes comments. But it often happens in a completely different way, and the teacher deeply hides his feelings because of public opinion. And an affair with a student is, in general, a mystery with seven seals. Although such a secret will still not last long due to the inexperience of the partner. And therefore, if you really start an affair with a student, then you need to be a very self-confident person.

Love for a teacher at the university

About why such a feeling arises, from the point of view of psychology, I have already spoken at the beginning. Now a little about life. In fact, not everything is measured by strict rules, and falling in love with your student years is something that goes without saying. This is generally something that cannot be measured. As one English poet wrote, if you can understand why you love a person, your love will go away.

Love for a teacher, especially a young and handsome one, can arise in any university group. But how can all this end? It all depends on the perseverance of the young lady and the depth of her feelings. After all almost every man finds it hard to resist when a young girl confesses her feelings to him. There are even those who specifically go to teach in order to constantly be in such a pleasant company. This is a kind of pickup of female students from improved positions. But how serious can such a relationship be?

To be honest, most students can be divided into three categories:

• "Blue stockings";
• "Party girls";
• "Athletes".

And all of them will express their warm feeling for the teacher in different ways. This first category of girls, as a rule, is modest and diligent, well-mannered students. Therefore, one can hardly expect open and quick recognition from them. In general, they have shyness and a sense of tact, are considered the main character traits. They are much more striving for knowledge, trying mainly at the expense of them to overcome their inferiority complex. But feelings for the teacher are ashamed and try to avoid.

But if, nevertheless, she fell in love, then she rarely dares to confess her feelings. Her shyness will only increase, she begins to blush deeply when talking with a loved one, and may skip classes altogether or sit down at the last desk. Such behavior is almost always noticed by her classmates, and therefore it becomes the subject of their jokes and gags. A smart teacher will also notice this, but he is unlikely to want to reciprocate her. After all, if he is young, the “blue stocking” is far from always being for him. Why did he startle her? As a rule, a certain collective image is formed in her head - a smart, kind, educated and adult man. She falls in love with her ideal.

But the girl "sportswoman" is more likely to fall in love with a physical education teacher than with an English teacher. She can admire both his athletic figure and determination in a healthy lifestyle, as well as a past rich in sports trophies. And the workouts are really close. Athletes and athletes in general often combine their personal lives and sports careers. That is why marriages between them are so frequent.
Such a student at first simply wants to be the best against the background of her friends - and not only in terms of sports results, but also in the eyes of the coach. And this desire is absolutely normal. But love can take her by surprise - from admiration, respect and desire to appear the best in his eyes to falling in love - one step.

How does she show her feelings? The athlete most often believes that the initiative should still come from her ideal, otherwise this image will collapse. She, of course, will make hints to him, behave differently. But her desire for sports victories will only increase - because of the desire to please him, and thus become closer.

But the most extravagant and unpredictable are the “party girls”. Their behavior in general can cause shock to the teacher. But such a woman will fall in love only with a strong man, with well-developed male character traits, or impressive external data. But the mental abilities of the object of adoration will worry the girl last. And a man must also be accomplished, with an apartment, a car (the family does not count), and the average age of candidates for her heart is about 35-45 years old.

How is her love expressed? Very expressive. After all, these are not only passionate glances at the couples, but also loud comments, constant attention to the teacher, not related to the topic of the lesson, frequent laughter and jokes about the personal life of the teacher. And therefore, soon about the "special" relationship will be known not only to the entire group, but to the entire department. This one generally loves to put the teacher in an awkward position, she can even watch near the house.

What are the prospects for these relations? If she achieves her goal, then in an amazing way she will calm down, and for the time being, few people will know about the relationship, until everything suits her. But if there are competitors (for example, a wife), then this will not end well. Although why shouldn't the teacher go to a younger and more beautiful one? .. Everything is individual, as they say.

Conclusion

The love of a teacher and a student at the institute is no longer nonsense. Feelings can arise from one side or the other, and this is quite normal. It is only important to treat it correctly.

The teacher must remember that he came to teach girls at the institute, and not to collect "trophies", otherwise he will be asked soon. And the student must understand what she really wants - an affair with a person older than her, and even with a teacher, is unlikely to last long.
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What should be the teacher, from the point of view of students?

It is no secret that mastering the subject largely depends on the ability of the teacher to correctly present the material. What qualities should a teacher have in order to interest students in the subject being studied? What kind of teachers can be safely called ideal?

For most people, the first acquaintance with teachers begins at an early age, namely from the moment they enter kindergarten. Then comes the school, where teachers not only teach children, but also lay the moral foundations of the individual, teach the norms of behavior and the unspoken laws of life.

Entering the institute, each entrant is already a formed personality, with his own opinion and preferences. Naturally, the attitude towards teachers in adolescence changes radically. It is difficult for a student to unquestioningly obey the will of the teacher, especially if the teacher does not show the slightest interest in the student.

It should be noted that university teachers are not just teachers, whose main task is simply the competent presentation of the discipline being studied. University teachers are a kind of mentors, helping students find a place in life, master their favorite business and become a true professional in their chosen profession. Obviously, in this situation, the requirements for teachers are much higher than in primary schools.

From the point of view of students, a university teacher should have a certain set of qualities that will make the learning process as effective as possible. It is conditionally possible to single out the following qualities, which must correspond to the best teacher, and which should be missing:

Positive traits	Negative qualities
Politeness, respect	Familiarity, familiarity
Communication	Closure, silence
erudition	Arrogance
Excellent knowledge of the subject	pickiness
Justice	Nervousness, rudeness
Ability to admit mistakes	Over criticality
Tolerance, diligence, punctuality	Bias

In addition to these qualities, there are other aspects that an ideal teacher must meet. It is necessary to consider in more detail the basic requirements for the image of a good teacher by students.

Professionalism.

Students can forgive the teacher for many negative qualities, but not for poor knowledge of the subject being taught. The teacher must be a real professional who does not stop developing and improving. Otherwise, the teacher should not count on the respect of the students.

Communication.

It is hard to get involved in the subject if the teacher is closed, silent and reluctant to make contact. The teacher must be able to find a common language with the student. But, it should be noted that in communicating with students, the teacher should not allow familiarity and familiarity, as well as an arrogant attitude. It should be noted that, first of all, a language teacher should be able to find contact with students, since speaking practice plays a big role in studying the subject.

Submission form.

This quality plays a decisive role in the perception of knowledge. Boring, tedious lectures delivered in a monotonous quiet or excessively loud voice cannot be perceived properly. Most likely, the lecture material will be forgotten by students immediately after leaving the classroom. Lectures should not be a dry presentation of facts, the material should be able to interest listeners.

We should not forget about periodic pauses, during which students could take a break from the constant recording of the lecture. An English teacher, however, like any other lecturer, must first of all have well-placed diction so that students can correctly perceive and write down the material.

Good teachers, like ours, teach not only the subject, but also the correct application of knowledge in everyday life, the ability to analyze and obtain the necessary information. A good teacher always appreciates the initiative and curiosity of students, encourages the ability to think rationally and look for new ways to solve certain problems.

The ideal teacher is not only able to admit and correct his own mistake, but also will analyze all the possible reasons that can lead to an erroneous conclusion. Thus, the teacher can prevent possible future mistakes of students.

In conclusion, it can be noted that the ideal teacher, first of all, should be of interest to students as a full-fledged comprehensively developed personality that can become a subject for imitation.

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For good study and successful passing of exams, you need to determine the type of your teacher. This will help you choose the right strategy and help you pass the exam. Main types of teachers:

Fairteachers.

This type of teacher is widespread, but tends to mutate into other types. Such teachers give lectures very expressively, but sometimes they can afford to joke or joke. If necessary, they are very severe, but terrorist activities are minimal in their number. Distinctive features: multifaceted knowledge of the subject, attitude, as a rule, open-minded, good sense of humor, a rare increase in voice. Foresight and creative thinking of students on the exam are highly valued by such teachers. And they are usually very difficult to write off. Good compatibility of this type with "Brilliant student", "Diligent student", "Able freeloader student".

Lecture teachers.

This type is rare. Men predominate. Such teachers give a lecture expressively, they constantly need silence and order, they can often raise their voice. Distinctive features: excellent knowledge of the subject, strict discipline and control, if students do not miss classes, they can automatically put tests. In seminars, students are not allowed to talk and it is not easy for them to cheat, but it is very easy to get rejected from the exam if there are 2-3 passes. Or, if there are gaps, these teachers ask additional questions during the exam. Usually they are not creative. With this type, "Genius Student" and "Diligent Student" have good compatibility. The bad one is with the Able Freeloader Student.

Demanding teachers.

Such teachers are also rare. There are many more women among them than men. They can give students a lot of trouble, as they require excellent knowledge of the subject. Distinctive features: require students to learn only from the information in the notes, memorize quotes, know the material perfectly. For all missed classes, additional questions are usually asked. They categorically do not accept a creative approach to the subject. Compatible with "Brilliant student" and "Diligent student".

The teachers are jerks.

Very rare. The number of men and women among them is equal. They usually take credits for their subjects. Distinctive features: students are left without attention or offered to work them out by buying books, etc. These teachers have a good knowledge of the subject, as a rule, those who are absent from lectures are not noted. They are very easy to write off. Good compatibility of this kind of teachers with all kinds of students.

Leveling teachers.

The species is very widespread. As a rule, special subjects are taught. They know the subject very well, they are demanding, they mark absentees at lectures. It is almost impossible to cheat from such teachers in the exam, and this will not particularly affect the assessment. Distinctive features: the vast majority of students in the exams are given equal marks. Compatible with almost all types of students. Minimal compatibility with "Brilliant student" and "Diligent student".

Fundamental teachers.

Quite a rare variety. Knowledge of the subject at a sufficiently high level. The probability of cheating on the exam is very low. Distinctive features: everything is done according to plan, questions are asked throughout the material. In practical classes, they cause a lot of problems for students. Principled in everything. Often they can raise their voice and invent something new. Picky about the little things. It is difficult to take exams for those who offend such teachers. Being a good student is the key to success. Good compatibility with "Brilliant student" and "Diligent student". Bad - with "Daring Student".

Creative teachers.

The view is very common. As a rule, these are graduate students leading the practice. Women are much more common than men. They are very kind, responsive and open. Distinctive features: they know their subject very well, they can sometimes be late for classes, they always smile when they see a “Capable Freeloader Student”. They will not be offended if Freeloaders of the opposite sex call them by name, invite them for a cup of coffee or talk about other topics. The possibility of writing off is very high. They can easily get along with the "Able Freeloader Student", "Brilliant Student", "Diligent Student" and "Ordinary Freeloader". They don't like "Student Bison" and "Student Indifferent".

Prank teachers.

Often, creative teachers mutate into prankster teachers. There are more men. They are very kind, but they can afford to bully students. Distinctive features: they know the subject very well and always laugh when they make fun of someone. Such teachers are very complex people, you can always expect surprises from them. It is impossible to predict what grade they will give in exams. But they are always very loved by students, despite the fact that their jokes are sometimes very irritable. They can afford to show up for an exam drunk. In most cases, they give a rating of "satisfactory" to everyone. It is easy to get along with this type of “Brilliant student”, “Diligent student”, “Able freeloader student”.

Terminator teachers.

They mostly live in technical universities, less often they can be found in humanitarian educational institutions. Their main subject is "Higher Mathematics". Usually they write on the board everything that needs to be written down. Main features: they do not like unnecessary conversations, the character is usually cold, Nordic, a moderately developed sense of humor (or may be completely absent). It is very difficult to pass their exams the first time, some students succeed only on the 6-7th attempt. The highest rating that can be obtained from such teachers is “good”. True, there are exceptions (very rarely) when students manage to get "excellent". If the teachers do not have a sense of humor, then when passing the exam it is better to make a smart look. And a minimum of facial expressions.

During the session, students have to ask more often than in regular classes how to properly “present” themselves to the teacher, what tone of communication will always be appreciated in favor of the student. You have to become a bit of an actor in the exam, because you need to get the examiner's favor and show the teacher that the subject has been mastered with high marks.

The advice of experienced students to freshmen is to accept teachers as they are. If the teacher professes the principle “my subject is the most important”, then there is no point in trying to dissuade him from this even with a hint. We must agree in our hearts with this approach and play along with it in everything. If the teacher likes to give a lot of comments and explanations at consultations to already understandable topics, you should not portray a person tired of repetitions. Write everything diligently again in a notebook, it will count for you.

In principle, all teachers on the eve of the exam like to be asked questions - via Skype or mail. “Check in” and you with a question, even if you already understand the material. Dialogues of interested students always soften the soul of the examiners.

As for discussions with teachers, moderation is good here. You can disagree with something, but only if you really have, for example, a more efficient solution. Or you have a new piece of evidence on the problem under discussion. And do not mind for the sake of playing "the most daring."

Don't grind until you're blue in the face. Try to delve into the topic. Teachers, as a rule, immediately distinguish crammers from thoughtful students. At the university, after all, it is not the text that bounces off the teeth that is valued more, but the ability to logically analyze and compare complexes of concepts.

Psychologists have developed several rules for establishing good contacts between the student and teachers on the exam, the recommendations operate almost regardless of the individuality of the personality of both.

1. When answering a ticket, start with what you are absolutely sure of. Even if we are talking about a general outline of the topic, your major, rather than pleading tone will create the right atmosphere of mutual understanding. If in theory you are not too strong, try to compensate for this shortcoming with a description of the process technology. It will immediately become clear that you understand the subject.

2. In general, a calm tone is a mandatory half of the exam. Get a grip on yourself and don't show your anxiety. Sit down to answer - try to smile. Do not try to fiddle with pieces of paper from nerves, darting around with your eyes or looking at the ceiling.

3. Teachers often benefit from appropriate digressions. Let's say you don't know the main direction of the question in the ticket, but you can turn around in a question that is close in meaning. Feel free to state it.

4. Good contact is provided by phrases that emphasize your respect for the teacher as a source of knowledge. Well, what could these phrases be? “As you told us during the lecture…”, “You and I understand what is important in our scientific field…” and the like.

5. Even if you do not know anything on the topic, except for one or two memorized phrases, do not answer, like a robot, with these fragments. Gather your willpower and try, albeit less smoothly, but to reason, to express your arguments.

Know that most teachers are friendly and even-tempered towards students and do not have the goal of flunking you on the exam. They will definitely demonstrate a kind response to your step towards establishing contact.

Good day, dear reader! Today's article is about types (kinds) of teachers who teach students at universities. After all, it is obvious to everyone that each person is individual in his own characteristics. Teachers are no exception, who sometimes differ so dramatically from each other that it seems that each of them lives on different planets - some of them are so immersed in the world of their science, which they teach to students at the university.

However, no matter how different people are, they can and should always be classified in order to know how to interact with whom correctly. After all, the approaches that you will use to successfully interact with him depend on the awareness of what kind of person is in front of you. The main thing is to understand what drives people and then you will not have problems with your teacher.

After all, what a student needs in the end: an excellent mark on the exam. So? So. Why lie. However, you should never engage in “begging” for one or another assessment you need. It does not paint the student. It is painted only by impeccably performed work, taking into account the requirements of the teacher. That's why it's so important to know: from here, your strategy of action for effective communications with him follows.

After all, as it usually happens: the teacher gives the topic of this or that term paper, says general things and that's it - write as you like. And students begin to write term papers, not even assuming that in the end they will have to rewrite them more than once in order to get the desired grade. And all because of what? That's right - due to the lack of primary information about the "hidden" requirements, which teachers often simply keep silent about. What are these "hidden" requirements?

These may include, for example, a certain author, a piece of text from the textbook of which must be included in your term paper, because. the teacher has a lot of respect for this specialist.

We hope you get the idea. What's next? Further, if you follow the logic, then you need to understand where to get information about these very “hidden” requirements? It's simple: ask your teacher about them. Just do not clumsily demand that the teacher lay them out for you on a silver platter. No. We are modern people and therefore you should apply the psychological method of indirect influence, i.e. try to talk the teacher to such an extent that he himself, without noticing that you, in fact, are manipulating him, will give you all his “hidden” requirements. And for all this, as you perfectly understand, you need to know exactly.

Therefore, below we will consider 3 main type (kind) of teachers. This classification is very conditional, but it allows you to clearly identify the most noticeable differences in the behavior of teachers.

1. The teacher is a screamer.

This type (kind) of a teacher is very common in universities. Such a person can be characterized as follows: he constantly screams with or without reason, does not let anyone near him for a single step, and never helps students with the performance of one or another task, which he himself asks.

You yourself do not understand that it is difficult to cope with this type (kind) of a teacher. However, difficult does not mean that it is impossible. There are several options here. One of the most effective is the way "from above", i.e. when you get together as a group and write a collective complaint against the teacher to the higher management. Believe me, this really works, the main thing is to collect as many signatures as possible.

Just don't be afraid that you're going to have a bad time with this kind of action. If the teacher really values ​​the work, then he will listen to the "recommendations" of his boss, read the dean of the faculty. If, however, this kind of influence passes by his ears, i.e. if administrative influence does not work on him, then this is a completely “washed-out” person who works only until the change of leadership. A new dean will come, and such an intractable teacher will be immediately fired.

If the current management is still likely to keep this teacher at work in view of his previous merits, then the new leader does not like it when his subordinates “behave badly” with clients (read students). The new dean will need to establish himself as a “good leader” who sees problems and can easily fix them. As you understand, such a problem for the new head of the faculty will be the same “teacher-screamer”.

However, this situation is extremely rare. We hope that you will be able to avoid such a teacher by the will of fate. In the bulk of teachers-screamers are eccentric choleric people who simply cannot yield to "some student there" in public. They feel that repeating explanations is not their concern, because they are too proud to explain the same material several times.

Therefore, the most effective "weapon" in this case is a tete-a-tete conversation. Try to talk to the teacher after the class, when there are few people left in the classroom. Such teachers, as we have already said, do not like to give in to anyone in public. Such teachers like to win in any situation.

Another thing is a private conversation. If the teacher has at least a little bit of reason (unlike the finished teacher, whom we analyzed above), then you will be able, within the framework of your ability to dialogue, of course, to find out from the teacher all the unclear points that you did not understand in the lecture. Or, as in our example, you can learn about the very “hidden” requirements that we also already talked about in this article.

The main thing here is not to argue with the screaming teacher, admire his merits as often as possible (if you manage to get him to talk to such an extent that he will tell you about the “past past”) and quietly and imperceptibly at the same time “bend his own line”. However, in order to start such a conversation, you will need some knowledge about the teacher. We wrote about this in more detail in our previous articles. Read there

2. The teacher - do not care.

This type of teacher is also very common in universities. It is difficult to say what this is connected with, perhaps low salaries are to blame for everything, as a result of which the teacher loses interest in teaching students and becomes almost similar in behavior to the students themselves. Such teachers like to talk in pairs about life, about politics. They often discuss various TV programs with students.

Students seem to be fine. “Well, I finally got a normal teacher,” the students think. However, you should not flatter yourself about such liberal behavior of the teacher. Everything comes to an end sometimes.

Therefore, if you come across a similar one, then we do not advise you to play on his nerves. Do not go too far, thinking that you can do anything with such a teacher. Respect the person, no matter who they are. It is quite possible that he behaves in this way only because he wants to alleviate the difficult academic life of students at least a little. Don't turn a good person into an aggressive screamer. After all, this teacher still has to take an exam or a test ...

Therefore, summing up all of the above, I should tell you the following: if you behave like a human being, then you will be treated in the same way. Do not wake up a fury in a "hamster"

3. The teacher is a rationalist.

It is not sad, but this type (kind) of a teacher is very rare. Apparently, almost all rationalists have already left higher educational institutions due to the lack of further prospects. However, in universities there is still a small percentage of such teachers - faithful to their science. It is easiest for a student to build relationships with such people, provided that the student studies conscientiously. If you are one of these students, then you should not have problems in the discipline taught by this teacher.

Even if something is not clear to you, the teacher of this type is always happy to help you and explain the part of the lecture that is incomprehensible to you. The same applies to difficult moments when writing a term paper. Such a teacher will never keep his “hidden” requirements for writing a term paper a secret, because. he just doesn't have one.

Therefore, if you come across this one, then try to build honest trusting relationships with him, conscientiously attend classes and do the necessary work according to the curriculum, and then you will not have problems with passing the exam, credit or term paper.

Conclusion: Within the framework of this article, we have considered 3 main types (types) of teachers who teach at universities. Of course, there are other types of teachers, however, it seems to us that these 3 main groups most clearly demonstrate all the diversity of the teaching staff, which is represented in any university in the country.

If you are just going to go to college, then you probably were interested in learning about what types (kinds) of teachers exist in the student community