How to cheer up a pen pal

Show him your love and support with messages.

If a person is really close, you will not be able to calmly look at his sad face or realize through messages that something in his life is going wrong. Sometimes there is no opportunity to meet in person. In such a situation, girls ask themselves the question: how to cheer up a pen pal?

Declaration of love

If your relationship has reached the stage when the situation with an awkward confession of feelings is left behind, write in a gentle SMS how you love the guy. Whatever the problem is, he will always be pleased to know that in any situation you will support him.

He is the best

Every man needs to feel the strongest, smartest, handsome and other nice adjectives. If a guy fails at something, whether it's failing an exam, getting fired from a job, or having a bad job interview, he needs you more than ever. Write that this is only a temporary difficulty. That you have been around for a long time and I am sure that he is smart and will definitely fix the situation. But don't confuse flattery with encouragement. Empty but loud words will not bring the desired result, but will only make things worse. Remember: in case of failure, a man must believe in himself again, and for this he needs you to believe in him.

Humor

Laughter is the cure for all problems. A dose of humor can dull the pain for a while and drive away bad thoughts. But you don’t need to go to extremes and send the guy all the jokes about Vovochka that you find on the Internet. Funny words should be "in the subject." You can send him a link to the article. Even if a man does not roll on the floor with laughter, a smile will surely slip on his face.

In addition to messages, you can send funny videos to the guy. To do this, it is important to know the preferences of the young man and be sure that he will like the video.

"Your Phrases"

In correspondence, it will not be superfluous to use a funny phrase that only you understand. Recall a comical incident that happened recently. The main thing is that this should not be a situation in which the young man does not appear in the best light - this will only inflame the situation.

Sometimes a man needs to talk about his problems. It is difficult to keep all experiences in an inner box, firmly closed with a padlock. Try to unobtrusively ask if he wants to discuss the situation. If the answer is categorical, do not continue to develop the topic. This is not a girlfriend who says “no”, but implies “yes” and waits for you to start asking for information yourself. If it's clear from the messages that the guy doesn't mind talking about the topic, let him talk. Even if you cannot help with advice or action, he will still feel better.

Remember that the main thing is his problem. Forget about your own experiences and failures for the day. It is important for a man to understand that he is not only heard, but also listened to. Therefore, say as little as possible about yourself.

If possible, use emoticons - they are designed to make the correspondence “alive”. Choose those emoticons that match your emotions at the moment. They will look cute and convey the right feelings.

You can send the guy a "heart" - it will definitely cheer him up.

If the guy doesn't want to talk—or has already done so—try changing the subject. Talking about other things will distract him from his problems for a while. You can start a topic about his hobby and ask questions to which you do not know the answers. Does your boyfriend know about cars? Write that you saw a beautiful car and you want to know its brand. Describe the car and, together with the guy, go through all the possible options. Young man playing computer games? Report that you downloaded / bought the game, but you can’t figure it out. A man will meet halfway, and at the same time be distracted from sad thoughts.