Why do people live badly
All people want to live happily, enjoy life and try to do everything possible for this. But sometimes, despite their best efforts, they don't succeed. And to understand what they are doing wrong is often unbearably difficult. So why do people live badly, what do they do wrong, or why are they so unlucky? We will try to answer these questions.
Why do people live poorly
People live poorly because they have not found the strength to admit that they do not love themselves, that their low self-esteem prevents them from understanding that they deserve a good life, happiness. Deep down, they believe that they deserve only a life in which all their actions are aimed not at living well, but at deserving love, showing that they are worthy of it. But everything is in vain, love cannot be earned, it is either there or it is not. And only they can give it to themselves.The one who does not know how to love himself, does not appreciate, does not respect and does not take care of himself, will never become a happy person, allows others to ignore their desires, violate rights, passes by someone else's misfortune and does not fight for himself. In other words, he is a neurotic who suffers from low self-esteem, envy of others, resentment and disappointment and does nothing about it. And he is able to get rid of darkness in his soul, exclusively by offending or humiliating another, if he is a tyrant, and if the victim always yields to others, tries not to offend anyone, refuses his own interests and desires, despite the fact that he himself then lives badly from such concessions .
People who live poorly do not understand what a happy life is for them. Of course, they may think that they live well, choosing as an example a life that other people call happy, they show on TV, but this means nothing to their soul. This does not please them, does not make them feel delighted, maybe at the beginning they will be glad that their path to the goal is completed, but if they did not want this, disappointment will arise in their soul very soon.
The unwillingness to admit to himself that he was on the wrong path makes the neurotic seek new goals, indulge his greedy pride, satisfy indefatigable ambitions, continuing to believe that after achieving the next goal, he will definitely live better. And all this instead of stopping and figuring out what exactly it means to live well for them, and not for others. So they live in palaces, but they are absolutely unhappy, not understanding what they still lack, because they have achieved everything that should have made their life better. Only when it is outwardly arranged does not mean that people will live happily.
The main thing is whether they like such a life, whether they enjoy it, whether they are happy with what is happening around, and whether they are ready to share this joy with others. Without the ability to love yourself, it is impossible to understand what you like, what brings joy, inspires, what you want to strive for, how to fulfill yourself, to be proud of yourself, to enjoy what you have achieved. 
When people do not love themselves, they do not care what is happening around, they do not have the strength and motivation to fight, to defend their rights, values, needs. They are not able to appreciate the damage that inaction brings them, unwillingness to fight for themselves. But it does not arise, because deep in their souls, they may think that they deserve only this mess around, although it is difficult for them to admit this, since no one wants a bad life for themselves with their minds.
Until people are able to find the strength in themselves to realize that everything that happens to them is partly their fault, because once they were silent, passed by, were indifferent to someone else's grief, nothing will change. They will resent how bad everything is, why everyone around is so lazy and only cares about themselves, not thinking that others think the same way about them. So they discuss each other, instead of telling themselves that they are worthy of love, respect and a good life and it is in their power to make it so. And they say this to themselves until they feel that their self-doubt, in their abilities, disappears, and instead of it, faith arises in the soul ... faith in the best, faith in themselves and in the fact that even one person is able to change the world around him for the better . And he will definitely succeed, because he is strong, because he is a man.
If you refuse to change and work on yourself, you won’t be able to live well, although it may seem so at first glance, because you don’t have to overcome the fear of criticism and possible mistakes. But your life is at stake, if you live all the time, avoiding fears, this is no longer a life, but an escape. Yes, and there will always be trials, this cannot be avoided.
We understand why people live badly
- They are too often indifferent to what is happening around and indifferent. Their fear to express themselves, to speak out on this or that occasion, to say what they do not like, leads to the fact that disorder blooms around them. They sit in small apartments and are afraid to take the initiative, to contribute to the life around them, which passes outside the doors of their apartments. And as a result, due to such behavior of the majority, devastation, desolation and grayness begin to reign around, which there is no one to remove, because everyone expects this from others, but in the end no one does. Not realizing that it does not depend on someone from above, but on each of us.
- Unwillingness to help those in need, sign important petitions in defense of nature, human rights, write a statement if someone does not fulfill their duties, make a small charitable contribution, protect the weak, become a volunteer in an orphanage, foundations involved in the protection of nature, animals , people who find themselves in a difficult situation, to spend a day off at least once a month in a shelter for homeless dogs and cats, feeding them, taking them for a walk, turns the world around us really into a terrible place where neither mercy, compassion and kindness reign, but fear, hopelessness and grief. Is it possible to live well in such a place?
- It is important to be kind, considerate, not indifferent. It is these qualities that can make life better. Without them, people cannot survive. The more good people in a society, the better it lives.
- When people think only about today, without thinking about the future, about how their actions, words, deeds, decisions will affect tomorrow, there is nothing surprising that their life is not going well.
- Any act has consequences, and if people once did someone bad, hurt, showed indifference, it is not surprising that sooner or later it returns to them. Therefore, it is so important to remember not only your rights, but also the rights of others, which begin where yours ends.
- If quarrels often arise during which no one spares each other, does not try to calmly clear up the misunderstanding that has arisen, learn to resolve conflicts in advance, clarifying all issues before irritation and discontent accumulate, the result is natural: families fall apart or life turns into hell. People do not suddenly break down, do not stop loving abruptly, do not turn into enemies unexpectedly, all this is preceded by the past. If two people are connected by more good than bad, if mistakes are recognized, and between them there is no abyss of insults, insults and humiliations, they will not lose their love, but will remain together, because together they are better than one at a time.
- Many live poorly because they could not cope with external causes, too many problems fell on them, no one helped them, and they were unable to withstand the blows of fate, broke down and gave up.
- For some, the last straw was a tragedy, for others, failures on the personal front. How many women put an end to themselves, but did not give up their subconscious desire to create a happy family and meet true love inside. At the same time, with their minds, they try with all their might to freeze feelings and dreams and convince themselves that they will no longer be lucky, their personal life is over. And the refusal to fulfill real desires and dreams always makes a person feel unhappy.
- In order not to suffer, it is important to be in inner harmony, and not try to convince yourself of one thing every day, but inside continue to strive for the exact opposite. Therefore, if you have not given up on some desires, have not felt that you really no longer want to live as before, think about how to fulfill your dreams. Otherwise, you will continue to hold on to your familiar comfort zone, but suffer, because this is not at all what the soul asks for. This is not at all what you dream of. But everything is in your hands. You just need to start.
